Romance Your Writer Within

And Reawaken Your Passion To Write

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Buy Her Flowers

Excerpt from Romance Your Writer Within by Melba Burns

Buy Her Flowers

Don’t you love receiving flowers from a loved one?

Yesterday, a friend gave me a dozen beautiful roses – and that act made my day. In any relationship, the gift of flowers speaks love, and will lift your energy.

Be the one who demonstrates love by investing $5.00 in flowers for your desk, or your coffee table. It will make your writing area more sacred. Those flowers could also make you aware of the beauty in your life, and open you to more of it.

The poet and acclaimed American writer, May Sarton, writes of flowers in her moving book, Journal of a Solitude:

“When I am alone the flowers are… felt as presences. Without them I would die… They live and die in a few days; they keep me closely in touch with process, with growth… I am floated in their moments.”

As you gaze at the soft, strong, smooth petal of that yellow tulip or red rose or purple iris, contemplate it as a reflection of your innermost self: If those delicate-looking flowers can withstand rains and storms, whatever the season may throw at them, you can too.

At midlife, you may be grieving losses that are common at this stage of your life. So, it is doubly important to see and value your own Inner Self. Go out today and buy yourself a bouquet of flowers, to reflect back your own inner love and beauty.

Yes, you have your own inner beauty, whether you acknowledge that or not: it is your Writer Within who is constantly with you. Let that beauty flow onto pages and into your stories and novels. You will stir your passion and reawaken your dreams.

“It’s my contention that the mere presence of passion within you –and the enthusiasm that comes with it – is all you need to fulfill your dreams.”

Wayne Dyer

— Dr.  Melba Burns

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Speak Truth with Your Writer Within

In a healthy relationship, when you both speak your truth you empower the partnership to grow more solid.

When you “own” all aspects of yourself and present them to your partner, he or she will know that you’re not hiding anything.

Trust grows.

As you encourage truth to flow onto the pages, your Writer Within knows that you want to be aligned with her.

Even if you pen things you don’t want to hear, write them anyway.

You might write about how you’ve been playing nice (which we women are encouraged to do) and Writer Within is tired of that.

Suddenly, you find yourself writing about the times when you’ve turned your back on people, or how you were mean to your partner, or how you yelled at your kids, or how you felt jealous when a friend got published before you – or whatever.

As you write, you will know yourself better and your writer’s voice will be filled with integrity.

Writer Within desires truth.

Writing truth, however, may feel like you’re stripping your clothes off in public and running around naked like you did when you were a child.

I confess I speak from experience…

…When I was a little girl of two, because nature was calling, I had to remove my little sun-suit and pee, right there on the path near our house.

Then, I sauntered along- with my clothes over my arm. Mother did not approve: “Come in here young lady!” she yelled. So I was spanked and put to bed for the rest of the afternoon.

But, I remember feeling so free.

At 12 years old, I was skinny dipping in a northern lake with my girlfriends, until the owner of the dock we were diving from yelled from his cottage, “Get the hell off our dock!”

Oh, how we cracked up on that one. It didn’t stop us.

We took our boat to an isolated island, sat sunning like little mermaids, and waved at the steamboats sailing by – forgetting that the passengers were probably peering through their binoculars.

Oh, we were free.

Somehow, being stripped of any constrictions in-between ourselves and nature really was an experience of freedom.

Telling the truth in our writing can free us.

While I’m not saying to run around naked, I am stressing the choice for creativity over conformity.

To respect your own individual truth

To be willing to dive into your own uniqueness.

In his insightful book, Creativity and Conformity, Clark E. Moustakas says, “One cannot grow according to one’s own nature unless he is free, and to be free is to accept oneself in totality, to respect one’s individuality, to be open and ready to engage in new experience.”

We hold back on expressing our truth, though.

Why?

Perhaps we still fear we’ll upset someone, like our mother or father, or at our age, our children or grandchildren.

Or, that we’re just too naked for all those judging eyes who will read our stuff.

Trying to hold back wears you out.

Once you put pen to paper, once you’ve written what wants out, you’re released.

You are free!

As Dr. Gene Cohen writes in his wonderful book The Creative Age:

“Creativity is built into our species; innate to every one of us … It is the flame that heats the human spirit and kindles our desire for inner growth and self- expression.”

Let go and let the flame of your creativity heat your spirit – so your passion can flow.

Call of the Wild

It’s the call of the wild, pulling at your blood Yelling at you to remember all those times before…

Before you got so structured
When you had no idea what you would do tomorrow Let alone in the next hour,
And it was okay. You were so alive!

Oh, maybe tears came
And you fell into the lonely holes But you kept on going.
Some nights, you might listen to music
And dance around a candle for three other people…

You’d laugh and let people in There was nothing to hide then No control to maintain
Just like a wild horse, you ran with it. Hopped on planes,
Flew off to Nassau or Bermuda on a whim.

Whatever happened to that? Have you laughed out loud lately? Have you danced wildly, or
Been held in a passionate embrace?

Have you held a man’s hand? Or a child’s?
Have you listened to your lonely voice Calling to you in the middle of the night?

Listen.

Oh, please listen!

Remember to …

Romance Your Writer Within and Reawaken Your Passion to Write

— Dr. Melba Burns

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Invite A Conversation

Then Listen

When you meet a person you’re attracted to, you usually ask questions so they may start to open up. To develop a relationship with this person, you must first invite and then listen to what they are saying – otherwise, they will sense your insincerity, close the door to their heart and turn away.

It is the same principle for Romancing Your Writer Within:

  • Ask good questions.
  • Then listen to what she says.

The question “Why” is a crucial one because if you don’t know your motivation to write, you probably won’t get very far.

But if you know why, you will create a strong foundation for putting pen to paper.

When I was a young woman of 25, I wrote in my journal: I want to write because I want to become a very wise woman and share that wisdom with others. I still refer to that entry when I resist my writing. In times of resistance, rejection, or self-doubt, you too can return to your responses to this question; they will fortify you and renew your passion to write.

Romance Your Writer Within ~ with a wee bit of chocolate!

…acknowledge to yourself whether you would have to die if it were denied you to write. This above all – ask yourself in the stillest hour of the night: must I write? And if this should be affirmative…then build your life according to this necessity;…
Rainer Maria Rilke

Ask “why write?” and then listen.

Some of your answers might sound like this…

  • I Want to write to tell my stories.
  • Inspire others, so they know they can make changes.
  • Allow the crazy-wild-me to flop onto the page in whatever form it takes.
  • Find out what really is inside me.
  • Have people read my work and, hopefully, enjoy it; laugh, cry, feel what is inside of them and be touched.
  • Make a contribution to this world.
  • Enjoy exploring other people’s lives in my characters.
  • Inspire readers, touch hearts and open them to remember who they are.
  • Go on inner journeys blindly, not knowing where.
  • Appreciate what’s around me and express it in poetry.
  • Trust that what I have to say means something.
  • Write from any mood, any time, anywhere; honoring my soul.
  • Tell my stories, so others get a sense of transcending their own challenges; that by writing, they can learn from their own.
  • Enliven myself – and to empower others.
  • Assist my soul’s transformation – touch another soul.
  • Speak through loved ones I’ve known; give them voice, and learn to understand them better.
  • Gain entry to portals of deep wisdom and knowledge.
  • Lift off from mundane and rediscover the poetic realm.
  • Say a holy YES to life and try to be my best self.
  • Make some money – hey, what a novel thought!
  • I want to write because I must.

Remember You still Can~ Romance Your Writer Within And Reawaken Your Passion To Write.’

— Dr. Melba Burns

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