In a healthy relationship, when you both speak your truth you empower the partnership to grow more solid.
When you “own” all aspects of yourself and present them to your partner, he or she will know that you’re not hiding anything.
As you encourage truth to flow onto the pages, your Writer Within knows that you want to be aligned with her.
Even if you pen things you don’t want to hear, write them anyway.
You might write about how you’ve been playing nice (which we women are encouraged to do) and Writer Within is tired of that.
Suddenly, you find yourself writing about the times when you’ve turned your back on people, or how you were mean to your partner, or how you yelled at your kids, or how you felt jealous when a friend got published before you – or whatever.
As you write, you will know yourself better and your writer’s voice will be filled with integrity.
Writer Within desires truth.
Writing truth, however, may feel like you’re stripping your clothes off in public and running around naked like you did when you were a child.
I confess I speak from experience…
…When I was a little girl of two, because nature was calling, I had to remove my little sun-suit and pee, right there on the path near our house.
Then, I sauntered along- with my clothes over my arm. Mother did not approve: “Come in here young lady!” she yelled. So I was spanked and put to bed for the rest of the afternoon.
But, I remember feeling so free.
At 12 years old, I was skinny dipping in a northern lake with my girlfriends, until the owner of the dock we were diving from yelled from his cottage, “Get the hell off our dock!”
Oh, how we cracked up on that one. It didn’t stop us.
We took our boat to an isolated island, sat sunning like little mermaids, and waved at the steamboats sailing by – forgetting that the passengers were probably peering through their binoculars.
Oh, we were free.
Somehow, being stripped of any constrictions in-between ourselves and nature really was an experience of freedom.
Telling the truth in our writing can free us.
While I’m not saying to run around naked, I am stressing the choice for creativity over conformity.
To respect your own individual truth
To be willing to dive into your own uniqueness.
In his insightful book, Creativity and Conformity, Clark E. Moustakas says, “One cannot grow according to one’s own nature unless he is free, and to be free is to accept oneself in totality, to respect one’s individuality, to be open and ready to engage in new experience.”
We hold back on expressing our truth, though.
Perhaps we still fear we’ll upset someone, like our mother or father, or at our age, our children or grandchildren.
Or, that we’re just too naked for all those judging eyes who will read our stuff.
Trying to hold back wears you out.
Once you put pen to paper, once you’ve written what wants out, you’re released.
You are free!
As Dr. Gene Cohen writes in his wonderful book The Creative Age:
“Creativity is built into our species; innate to every one of us … It is the flame that heats the human spirit and kindles our desire for inner growth and self- expression.”
Let go and let the flame of your creativity heat your spirit – so your passion can flow.
Call of the Wild
It’s the call of the wild, pulling at your blood Yelling at you to remember all those times before…
Before you got so structured
When you had no idea what you would do tomorrow Let alone in the next hour,
And it was okay. You were so alive!
Oh, maybe tears came
And you fell into the lonely holes But you kept on going.
Some nights, you might listen to music
And dance around a candle for three other people…
You’d laugh and let people in There was nothing to hide then No control to maintain
Just like a wild horse, you ran with it. Hopped on planes,
Flew off to Nassau or Bermuda on a whim.
Whatever happened to that? Have you laughed out loud lately? Have you danced wildly, or
Been held in a passionate embrace?
Have you held a man’s hand? Or a child’s?
Have you listened to your lonely voice Calling to you in the middle of the night?
Oh, please listen!
Remember to …
Romance Your Writer Within and Reawaken Your Passion to Write
— Dr. Melba Burns
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